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Matters of the Heart
By: Yani Long
Growing up is a part of life. Your body goes through all types of changes. Of course the mental and emotional changes are most definitely inevitable, but what is sometimes overlooked are the physical changes that happen on the inside in addition to what changes on the outside.
While you are getting taller, maybe even wider or thinner, what you don’t realize is how you treat your body truly affects you more than you know. When it comes to the matters of the heart on a physical level, it is vital to start living healthy early in preparation for a long-lasting, promising future.
Right now your body is vulnerable to lot of things. Imagine how your parents raised you. Now imagine if they did not take care of you the way they should have when you were a baby, toddler, and small child. Would you be as healthy as you are right now? It is now your job to pick up where your parents left off.
Peer pressure now is probably one of the most prominent things in your life right now. Being introduced to smoking, maybe even drinking, sports, or other physical activities all play a part in your health.
Smoking and drinking have long-term effects on your body. The type of diet you have and routine exercises you are committed are helpful in terms of your health, but they do cancel out the smoking and drinking if you are engaging in those activities. It is encouraged to watch what you eat, avoid anything harmful to your body, and start exercising now so that your heart and body are on the up and up as you get older and become the woman you are destined to be.
Sports are other physical activities, such as dance or ballet, are great ways to maintain fit and healthy. The goal is not to get you involved into things you do not want to be involved in but to consider the resources to maintain a healthy living. Your heart is what pumps the blood through your veins It is the key to the very reason that you are even alive.
Don’t smoke and don’t drink. Live healthy by having a balanced diet and make sure you going to your family physician regularly to ensure that you are doing the necessary to being healthy and living a healthy life. For more information and tips for doing so visit www. Health.org.
Loving Yourself Before Loving Others
By: Eman Al-Taher
Dating, falling in love, it is all a slippery path. I personally never dated in high school. It was a choice I made because I understood something that many of my peers did not. I understood that I was on a path of self-discovery, and that I could never establish a ‘we’ until I established a ‘me’.
I believe that in high school most people dated as a means of upping their popularity status, and I didn’t believe or agree with that. Call me old fashioned, but I believe that dating is something you do when you are ready to begin your search for you future spouse.
Before beginning that search, I believe that you must know and understand who you are, and who you want to become. Then you look for someone who fits your status quote and who is willing and able to help you reach your life goals, possibly because he has similar ambitions.
A part of my path to self-discovery was learning to love myself. I began to understand that if I did not love and accept all my flaws, then how could I expect another person to do that? I accepted the fact that I am by no means a size2, I do not have porcelain skin, and I do not have hair like the girls in shampoo commercials.
Instead, I am size awesome, I have occasional acne and blemishes and my hair is similar to the girl from the movie Brave if I leave it untamed. After I accepted these (and many other) flaws, I had this new found confidence. This confidence derived from loving all of me, even my flaws.
This new found confidence began to draw in male attention. But I was still not ready to begin my quest for a potential husband. I still had more I needed to work on. More love I had to give myself. I was still working on being a whole person, see I knew that two people both have to be a whole person prior to entering a relationship, that way you can equally contribute to the relationship. Something that most people don’t understand is that we leave this earth the way we came in it; alone. In order to love yourself, you have to always be true to yourself. Only then can others learn to love you. Before entering a relationship, I knew I had to be confident in who I am and what I believe in.
But what is most important is that every person is different. This was something that worked for me based on my ideals. However other people may need to date to help in their path to self-discovery. In the end all that matters is that you do what is best for you and that you keep on loving yourself through the process. And throughout your days, always remember one of my favorite quotes, from the movie Perks of Being a Wallflower; “We accept the love we think we deserve.”
Celebrating the Day of Love
By: Patrice Rivers
February 14th, the day of love where couples, marriages and all the dating scenes gets the royals of high-prep limousines, romantic dinners, boastful gifts of balloons, boxes of chocolates, stuffed animals and a special tribute to the women, the famous “I do’s” that sings across the heavens. Some men take on the responsibility of planning the “perfect” way and place to propose to their girlfriends and to shower them with special gifts such as an engagement ring. Whereas gifts are being given for expressing their love….or is it too expensive or too much?
Valentines’ Day may be great and all but remember that love should be expressed every day and not just on Valentine’s Day. It’s the thought that counts more rather than spending lots of money on one day. Here are some ways that you can show/express your love without the materialistic things and without spending all of your money!
1) Make a mixed CD! Download all of your partner’s favorite songs and put them all on a CD for a nice romantic evening to enjoy at home.
2) Create a hand-made card- Being creative is always great to show off your creativity skills!
3) Saying “I Love You” has got to be the most special gift of all!
4) Send them an encouraging text or simply tell them how much you appreciate them.
For more information on how you can express your love without spending a dime, please visit www.tinybuddha.com
But remember that love should be expressed every day without taking it for granted! If you feel as though you aren’t loved by your spouses, friends or in your close relationships, the deepest love of them all is God!
An excerpt from “Lyrical Passion Tears from my Inkwell “The Deepest Love”:
”We meet different people and different people come into our lives for different reasons. Love will vanish from your life, disappears just like the season. But you have to pick yourself up and remain strong when the evilness of love strikes back. The next time love walks into your life; you should know how to act. Love sometimes makes us weak that we get so depressed. You are too blessed to be stressed. Don’t feed into your love mess. Sometimes we look for love in the wrong places, trying to fill the empty spaces. Stop trying to look for love! Let love find you…”
V-Day Gift Ideas
By: Jamiya Turns
To make someone’s Valentine’s Day special does not have to drain your pockets this year. All you have to do is use a little creativity and have fun with it and add your own personal touch to these ideas.
Boyfriend / girlfriend:
Black History Month
Black Women In History
Each day during the month of February, we will be highlighting a black woman who made history and/or made a contribution to society.
Lent: A Holy Season Breakdown
By: Camille Daniels
What: For those who identify as Christians, there are a few times out of the year that are important to their religion. One of those times is Easter and in preparation for Easter is the season known as Lent. Lent is the time beginning with Ash Wednesday until Maundy Thursday. During the season of lent is when Christians repent of their sins through various rituals over a six-week period. It all comes together in observing Jesus’ final weeks of life, especially his final week alive known as Holy week and ends with Easter.
Who: The season involves Christians of all sects and Catholics also known as disciples or believers of Jesus.
When: It happens every year beginning Ash Wednesday and ending on Maundy Thursday on traditional liturgical calendars over a six-week period. It also falls at different times of the year for Christians who don’t follow the Judeo-Christian calendar that most Protestant Christians follow such as Greek Orthodox Christians.
Where: All around the world.
Why: To remember the sufferings of Jesus’ life experience and why he died on the cross.
How: It is observed in ways such as fasts or going without eating for certain periods of time. Fasting isn’t just relegate to food. It could be something else a person enjoys. There is deep prayer and reading the bible. There is seeking repentance or forgiveness of one’s sins or penance meaning to give something up. People sometimes reenact those final weeks with plays and more church worshipping.
Fun Fact: This year Lent begins on Wednesday, February 18, 2015 and ends on Thursday, April 2, 2015.
What I Should Give Up For Lent
By: Shamyua Miles
Lent lasts for 40 days. 40 days seem like a long time to give something up, but during this time you are supposed to focus on becoming closer to God. Living life simply, praying and fasting are the goals of Lent. When people practice Lent, they tend to give up things that they do in their everyday lives. You don’t have to give up certain things for the whole 40 day, but you can give up things once a week or even just certain hours out of the day. Here are a few things that you could possibly give up for Lent:
1. Fast Food
Fast food can be unhealthy. Giving up fast food can help with cleansing your body and it can also be the start of a healthier lifestyle. Instead of eating fast food, try cooking all of your meals.
Sweets are good to taste, but are not good for our bodies. Sweets allow us to eat constantly and not feel full. Sweets can also speed up the aging process. Giving up sweets can make you feel more energized and also help with a healthier lifestyle.
Everyone uses electronics on a daily basis. Electronics can be a distraction if you allow it. Giving up electronics can help you to stay focused on the things that truly matter in life.
Elevators and escalators get you places faster, but they are also used for some people to just be lazy. Giving up elevators and escalators gives you a daily workout without the gym. Instead of the elevator or escalator use the stairs.
We all love to text, right? It’s the newest way to communicate with others. Giving up texting can be beneficial in multiple ways. Instead of texting others all the time, just call. Calling instead of texting prepares you for being comfortable with speaking to others and not just hiding behind a phone. Calling also allows a personal connection between two people because you hear their voices and can sense their emotion.
Remember, giving up things for Lent doesn’t mean you have to completely change your lifestyle for 40 days, it just means you give up your wants for the things that you truly need.
Sodium & Heart Health
Healthy V-Day Snacks
Tasty & low-calorie snacks that will be good to try on Valentine's Day:
The Light Girls Experience Documented
By: Camille Daniels
The Light Girls documentary aired on the OWN network recently talking about the united experience of many light-skinned African American women. The documentary talked about everything from the history of where the hatred comes from for light-skinned African American women to the daily experiences many of these women dealt with growing up. It also talked about the psychology of how these negative experiences continue to remain with these women into adulthood.
The documentary took a look at the impacts of certain worlds such as the media, social media, and beauty industry. Regarding social media Twitter has its own hashtags of team light skin vs. team dark skin. The beauty industry was examined by looking at the impact of skin bleaching. Skin bleaching isn’t something exclusive to black people but also can be found around the world. And also fitting into traditional physical beauty standards of what all women should aim to look like.
The issue of colorism isn’t just amongst the African-American community but also international as well. The film talked about the issue in India, the United Kingdom and on the Asian continent. It has also become a problem on the continent of Africa. The common thread all these places shared is everyone looking to become lighter skinned then their natural skin tone by bleaching their skin.
One aspect the film focused on is the issue of being “black enough”. Many of the subjects interviewed talked about being bullied by their peers. How young girls could really be mean by beating them up and making them feel less than who they were because of their skin color. At times the subjects began to cry remembering the painful experiences.
The documentary didn’t just talk to women but also to both black and non-black men. The men not only talked about how the issue of skin color was a factor in whom they dated it went deeper then that. One of the men talked about the personal experiences his own mother and other family members had to deal with when defending their light skin selves.
Colorism is such a sensitive subject and how family members treat that child or children can have a lasting impact.
The film sends the message that for a more positive community change needs to occur. It starts with treating ourselves as individuals and each other with love and respect.
The film talked to people of all walks of life including writers, entertainers, bloggers and private citizens. It is something that should be watched many times and talked about amongst viewers afterward.
Enjoy these nail polish colors that will be great for V-day: